I haven’t forgotten about my series on forgiveness. It is a big topic though so I didn’t want to rush it. If you want to catch up on previous posts, check out the Forgiveness Category on this blog.
I’ve heard from a number of you about this topic and received some great feedback. One of the things mentioned was that it would be important to study what Jesus said about forgiveness. I couldn’t agree more! It’s something I had originally had in mind when starting off this series.
So, I spun up some Bible software and did a simple search. Here is (as far as I can tell) the very first thing Jesus said about forgiveness (sequentially starting from Matthew that is… not necessarily chronologically). The context is the Lord’s Prayer. I’ll put the whole passage in here for reference. I’ve emphasized the parts that stand out.
Matthew 6:1-15 (ESV)
“Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven.
2 “Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.
5 “And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites. For they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. 6 But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.
7 “And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words. 8 Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.9 Pray then like this:
“Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name.
10 Your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
11 Give us this day our daily bread,
12 and forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
14 For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, 15 but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Some Observations
1. Jesus’ main point is that we should not practice righteousness (do good) to impress others (horizontal). Instead we should practice righteousness to honor God and receive rewards from Him (vertical), not others.
Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven.
Jesus approaches the subject of forgiveness as if he were using google maps. By that I mean, he starts with a big perspective of the whole world and then zooms down slowly. (If you’ve never done that on Google Maps… first of all how is that possible? Second of all, you should. It’s kinda fun.)
The big topic at hand is this whole idea of practicing righteousness. A lot of people say, “Oh yeah I’m a good person.” But Jesus points out that it isn’t enough to be good. You also have to think about the motivations behind that.
If we are good for the sake of looking good to others, Jesus says that is the wrong motivation. It is not recognized by God as being valid. But if our motivation is to please God, that is where the reward from God comes.
So, the motivation behind the forgiveness is important. Do we forgive others to be seen as loving, magnanimous, bighearted? It should cause us to take a second look at our motives for or against forgiveness.
2. One example he gives of practicing righteousness is praying.
And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites.
This is pretty straight forward. He is zooming in on the topic of forgiveness.
3. It is in prayer to God exemplified that we see the first mention of forgiveness.
and forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
Here we get to the point in Google Maps where we have arrived at the street intersections of our destination and we can see the top of the building or location we are searching for. But we may be surprised at where the building is in general.
You might expect the topic of forgiveness to be contained in a broader category of getting along with others. And in a way that is true.
Prayer is after all a conversation with someone. And that someone is God. And what is relationship without communication?
4. The first type of forgiveness that is mentioned is God’s forgiveness of us. We need it.
and forgive us our debts
This is the paradigm shift for me when it comes to forgiveness. Usually I struggle with forgiving others. Or, I struggle with wanting to be forgiven by others. However, Jesus takes that important step back to see the more important issue.
Before we heal our relationship with each other, we must heal our relationship with God. And in that relationship, we are the ones who need forgiveness.
5. The second type of forgiveness that is mentioned is our forgiveness of others.
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
This is important because of how Jesus phrases the prayer. He uses our forgiveness of others as a way to prove to God that we are not being hypocritical (going back to that bird’s eye view point above). We aren’t just trying to get a free ride on some offense because God is love. No, we are genuine. We admit we need forgiveness and we prove that by forgiving others freely.
Here, he never mentions needing forgiveness from other people. He puts the responsibility of forgiveness on the one doing the forgiving.
To me this shows that all of our reasons for not forgiving someone, are actually somewhat bad. We are too hurt, they betrayed us too many times, we are better than they are, they don’t deserve forgiveness.
All of these come from an attitude that fails to realize our own desperate need for God to forgive us of our sin against Him. And looking at it from that angle, the difference between you and the person who hurt you is like two houses comparing their relative heights next to Mount Everest.
6. Jesus emphasizes and explains the need for non hypocritical forgiveness with both a promise and a warning.
For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
This is both reason to be overjoyed and terrified. It is wonderful because God promises forgiveness to those who can forgive others truly from the heart.
And it is terrible because how difficult that can actually be. How can some want good to come to someone who lied to you and ruined your life? How can you let that go? It seems impossible at times. And yet necessary if we really understand our need for God to forgive us.
Conclusion
Whenever I read the words of Jesus, it often leaves me a little… shaken. Our culture makes Him out to be so fluffy and sappy like He only talked about love and peace. Here is an example of how he is nothing at all like our culture pictures him to be.
He sets the bar high and requires obedience. And he offers glorious rewards and promises for doing so.
There is so much more that can be said about this. So many questions it raises. Is Jesus saying we can earn God’s forgiveness by forgiving others? Can we lose forgiveness if we don’t? What about free grace and love? Is this works based salvation?
These are all great questions. But I’ve covered what I meant to talk about in this specific post. Please share any thoughts or questions you may have in the comments. I’d love to start a dialogue about some of these issues.